Today, a CA judge overturned the marriage proposition in CA effectively banning gay marriage. Since I write on sexuality, I feel the need to give my opinion on the topic.
This entire problem is due to the fact that the government thinks it has any business in marriage.
Marriage started off in private institutions in private ceremonies. For, I don’t know how long but probably a long time, people got married in churches. They never asked for any kind of government affirmation or license.
The government would have never dreamed up of such a legal contract unless it was happening privately. At some point, the government decided it had the authority to decide who should get married and when.
You can see how well it has turned out for heterosexuals. The always-given-statistic is that 50% of marriages end in divorce. I have no idea when whoever came up with that statistic did so and if it has been updated in the last 30 years. Regardless, government-sanctioned marriages aren’t doing so hot for heterosexuals. Perhaps a bunch of legalities are not so great at deciding who should get married and private, respected individual, such as a pastors or Rabbis, were better judges of it and gave better advice.
I would give the same advice to homosexuals. You don’t need the government to enter a private contract, which is what marriage is.
But, essentially, that is what it is for homosexual activists: it is for acceptance in mainstream society, not any kind of practical benefit.
I have sympathy if the issue is purely practical, such as getting health benefits. Civil unions accomplish this practical necessity. But I don’t think this issue is being pressed for practical reasons.
So, I would encourage homosexuals to set up their own institutions that cultivate lifelong, monogamous relationships. Do it privately. Call it whatever you want. You don’t need a marriage license, which really is just a piece of paper, to declare your love.
These type of things should happen organically, not myopically. If it really was about love, we would have seen already established private institutions cultivating such lifelong, same-sex commitments. Instead, it is being thrust us on politically, suggesting agenda, not love, is behind it.