Understanding Your Child’s (and Your) Emotions
A study guide, glowing review, and slight criticism of Liberated Parents, Liberated Children
This book, “Liberated Parents, Liberated Children” is fantastic and influenced me greatly–as a mom, wife, and person. If I could describe it in one phrase, it is “emotional health”–of your child and you. This is an overview of the highlights, meant to act as a powerful study aid to the book.
The issue I take, mentioned below, is that the authors say they are opposed to a “rational” model of parenting. I attempt to show in this article that empathy and reason *are* compatible. By rejecting “reason,” I argue, there is a certain rigidity to the philosophy presented that doesn’t allow it to be fluidly adopted by its students.
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Helicopter versus ‘Junkyard’ Parents
“The philosophy underlying junkyard parenting is one of extreme pragmatism. A pragmatic does “what works,” without any idea of why something works. An example, for illustrative purposes, may be someone who tries to get to a destination, not by consulting a map and plotting a route, but by just getting in a car and going, getting lost over and over again, until they finally reach their destination. This “bump around in the environment” philosophy is what the junkyard parent relies on as a teaching tool—no teaching, no coaching, no explaining, just letting a child loose on the world, and letting physical pain be their guide.”
I am appreciative of the Free Range Kids blog but I have long suspected that those in the “let kids go out and play in a junk yard camp” are opposed to cognitive development. Here is my Open Letter to Lenore Skenazy
The example you give of how a completely hands off approach to early child development is effective is learning how to speak. “But unleashed from lesson plans, kids are on fire to learn. Need proof? They all learn how to speak! No classes required!” Having recently watched my toddler go through a language explosion, I would argue that not only can stimuli, specifically books, accelerate their language development; it is also very possible for unnecessary speech delays to occur if parents don’t give the proper stimuli to their children.
My main article on the research I did about the Montessori Method. It is part of a 3-part series but I am only publishing the first part for now. This research helped me immensely in guiding my son’s learning starting at just 18 months, especially for language comprehension development. My son took an intense interest in picture board books at 18 months. Before I read about the Montessori Method in detail, I, like a lot of people I think, had difficulty keeping his interest. Using the 3 stages of learning presented by Montessori helped me immensely to keep his interest. This method uses no tricks, no complexity, no gregarious story telling–just a simple understanding of how children best learn, and I’ve used it successfully with many children other than my own son. I describe further in this article how the Montessori Method is like “intellectual gymnastics” where difficult skills are broken up into component skills and are practiced in a fun and enjoyable way. I hope you find value in this article, and if you do, please share!
The Montessori Method: Intellectual Gymnastics
The Cognitive Development of an Infant
This body of work (nearly a thesis) follows something I have long wanted to study–the cognitive development of a newborn child. It follows it through the first 2 years. It follows the book Wonder Weeks, which argues children go through 10 “leaps” in cognitive development, each of which is preceded by a growth period where the child is very fussy. I draw from several other books too in order to cross reference their work. I give many examples with pictures of my own son. The first leap starts with the leap of objectivity, at 5 weeks, when the child first recognizes there is an external world to them. It ends at 18 months (the start of the last leap) with the leap of system building.
This truly was a labor of love! The information in this body of work helped me greatly as a parent. I hope you find value in it and if you do, please share!
Can’t you just see his brain working! 🙂
A short, straightforward open letter to the Egyptian people on this 4th of July.
Congratulations, Egyptians, on ousting a Dictatorial Leader. Now Set up a Free Government. A Republic, not a Democracy
“If a country is to have freedom, they have to want it. Why? Because freedom isn’t free. Most free countries started after a revolution, kicking tyrants out, and then afterwards put into place a strong, stable government, grounded in a deep knowledge of what rights are, that preserved freedom. This is a tall order, especially for a place like Egypt. If there is to be freedom of speech, any time someone speaks out against Islam—say by drawing a cartoon of Mohammed—the government needs to protect this person’s rights. It requires strong men, with guns, who are on the good and moral side to fight any bad men. If no such men exist, freedom will not prevail.”
For Valentine’s Day … my view on the nature of masculinity and femininity. <3
"Femininity is defined as the woman who embraces, loves, and relishes in the fact that she is a woman."
The Roots of Gender: Defining Femininity and Masculinity
Just as the conclusions in Objectivist philosophy were based on mans nature, so the conclusions in sexuality should be based on the nature of man and the nature of woman.
CONGRATULATIONS U.S. FORCES ON KILLING AND CAPTURING OSAMA BIN LADEN!!!
Our brave soldiers deserve a big THANK YOU for the heroic and dangerous work they do and their success in finding, killing, and capturing Osam bin Laden!!!
This is a major victory for the U.S. Not only is it a huge morale boost for our nation and a devastating one for our enemies, the likely extensive, ongoing, and expensive efforts to find bin Laden can now cease. It also may put an end in sight to this war. I support the war and do not want to end it early, but a successful outcome which ends most efforts would be welcome. Most importantly, killing Osama bin Laden is a victory as it brings justice to his 3,000+ victims.
I agree however that this is not an end to it all. And I disagree with the President: Islam very much is the problem and inspires people to terrorism. It was tasteless that he used his speech to defend Islam. Islam is a fighting ideology with an uncanny hatred of infidels. So as long as this religion is given respect, it will inspire the next Islamic terrorist. Mohammed himself was a terrorist. Please read and spread my article “Islam on Trial: The Prosecution’s Case” where in 17 pages I dissect the Koran and show how it is nothing but one long battle cry against infidels. PLEASE do not tell me Islam is peace or Christianity is “just as bad” without reading the article! The PDF is FREE!
Kate Middleton looks so pretty as she weds Prince William at Westminster Abbey! It’s nice to see a Royal couple marry at an age when they are matured adults (late 20s) and for what seems like genuine love, not Royal pressure.
A Note on Using the Military for Social Agendas
What I am about to write is such common sense that it makes almost no sense that I have to write it. But I feel I must: The militarys only purpose is to defend our nation.
Further, the job of our military is a very difficult and dangerous one. Soldiers put their lives on the line so that the rest of the country can be free. Whatever support we can give them we absolutely should. All advantages that we can give to our military should be employed. However many lives it saves is worth it.
With that said, here is a logical conclusion: The only factor in weighing one military policy over another is how well it aids our troops.